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I’m very proud to say that yesterday was my official quit date. I’ve said over & over again for a little over 6 years now that I wanted to quit smoking. In June of this year it would’ve made 16 years that I’ve been smoking. Finally on 1/3/2021 I actually committed to my goal and I’m sticking to it. What pushed me to actually quit for real this time was being out of cigarettes and the money I did have was needed for bills. Normally that’s not like me at all, if I was out of cigarettes I’d either spend the money I needed for bills and just be short until I can pay the rest or scram through the house or my car like a crackhead looking for change to either buy cigarettes or get a black & mild. Yesterday was different. I had said once again my New Years resolution was to quit smoking. I was tired of letting cigarettes control my life & take over me. I finally decided to take back control of my life. I will no longer be a victim to nicotine. Not to mention all the money that was being spent on buying cigarettes. I’d say my husband & I spent roughly about $300 each month buying cigarettes. I never thought I’d be able to quit smoking, my addiction was so strong I didn’t know if I’d be able to live without cigarettes. Literally anytime I’d get stressed out, feel my anxiety starting to get bad, get upset or mad, when I’d go into a rage, even when I was bored my go to was a cigarette. Just the thought of putting a cigarette in between my lips & lighting it up taking that first initial puff seemed to relieve anything and everything that was on my mind or whatever I was going through that cigarette was all that was on my mind. Even if nothing was on my mind smoking that cigarette made time pass by & just made me feel relaxed. Without a cigarette in my mind I thought I just wouldn’t be able to cope, I kept thinking in my mind if I don’t have a cigarette, how am I supposed to get through the day when my emotions started going crazy on me? If the number one thing in my mind was that cigarettes calmed me down and kept my nerves under control. I guess that’s why it took me so long to finally get the courage to quit. My best advice to anybody trying to quit, make sure you’re ready. I know it says on pretty much any blog/webpage/book/etc to prep yourself to quit. Set a date as your quit date, they say preferably 2 weeks from the day you’re wanting to quit & work your way towards being smoke free. I personally didn’t do that, but if you are trying to quit and need the time to prep yourself, do it. When you get cravings to smoke, try to hold off for as long as you can. Remind yourself over & over again why you want to quit, write all of your reasons down, post it somewhere you can always see it, write notes of inspiration to yourself, plant it firmly in your mind that you’re going to live smoke free, & always get as much support & encouragement from people as you can. It’s possible to do it alone, but with a great support group, people who have been through the same struggles as you have & know just how hard it is, can motivate you to be committed and it will help you stay more encouraged and committed to quitting then trying to do it alone. A good support system is key. Also, another thing to keep in mind while you’re trying to quit and once you’ve made the decision weather it be your first day or you recently just quit, stay away from your friends and family who do smoke, try to avoid anywhere that reminds you of smoking, throw away anything you have that reminds you of smoking. Since yesterday was my quit day, I deep cleaned my house to get the smell of cigarettes out of my house and threw away everything in my house that was associated with smoking. Now I don’t have to steadily be reminded about smoking because there’s nothing in my house to remind me of it, and my house smells fresh, I’ve washed pretty much everything in my house to make sure I got the smell out & mopped my floors multiple different times. My beautiful sweet daughters mean everything in this world to me, there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for them! As a parent, I decided for the health & future of my children cigarettes wouldn’t be my priority anymore! I want better for my children. My husband & I are also trying for another baby. The past 2 months we’ve conceived but it has turned into a chemical pregnancy where we lost the baby & I don’t know for certain but in my heart I believe it was because of smoking. Especially since I was smoking between 1-2 full packs by myself in one day. I witnessed multiple times family members struggling with serious health issues due to smoking and some even passed away. My mother was just recently diagnosed with COPD and a few other health issues all related to smoking. I don’t want that for myself & especially not for my children! They deserve better! I wish nothing but the best for my babies now, as they grow up & once they get my age & older. I hope they never pick up on the habit of smoking, hopefully now that I’m a non-smoker and they won’t be exposed to cigarettes at home from their mommy & daddy ( My husband is quitting with me as well so that right there makes it easier on me since I’m not alone quitting one of the hardest habits to kick) , they’ll never want to pick up a cigarette & take that 1st hit. That’s all it takes, just one cigarette & you can be hooked, half of the time for the rest of your life. I’m thankful I haven’t got any serious health issues from smoking as long as I did. My chest does hurt every now & then and if I go for a walk I do get shortness of breathe & I can’t run for the life of me, if I even tried my chest would get super tight feeling like I’m about to pass out and it’d take a good while just for me to catch my breath. I may be very early on in this new journey of my life, but I’ve got full determination, motivation, a strong mindset, encouragement, and faith in myself as well as a strong support system by my side every step of the way. I know I can keep my goal, I have no doubt in my heart. I’m ready to get back healthy, it will take time for my body to heal, slowly but surly I will start to feel better and get back to old activities I used to do before I smoked. No matter what obstacles life throws at you, you’re strong enough to overcome them. Keep pushing forward no matter how hard things get. The outcome is worth every second of the ups and downs you will go through. Just think of it as being a bump in the road and this too shall pass. You’re mind is a very powerful thing, you just have to stay positive no matter what. Nicotine is very addictive making it seem as if you need it, but I personally can tell you from my own experience that you don’t! I’m using the patch along with the nicotine gum/lozenge (maybe 2-3 times a day) to help me but if you can do it cold turkey I give props to you! For me though, the patch is working wonders for me! Smoking a cigarette hasn’t even crossed my mind. I’m actually surprised & super proud of myself today as it’s been a very long stressful day. & as I’ve mentioned, stress is my #1 trigger to smoke a cigarette. I’ve had 2 small cravings today, but I didn’t let cigarettes get the best of me this time. While sitting in the emergency room with my family and my in laws, I fought through those cravings! I said to myself both times, I’m quitting for my children’s health as well as mine and I will not let nicotine win. Not this time! Other than those 2 small cravings with everything that’s going on and all the stress I’m dealing with, I stayed strong & remembered my goal. That right there took a lot. If I can do it, I promise you that you can too! You just have to put your mind to it. I know this post is a bit long, so if you’ve read through my whole post thank you! I just wanted to share my own personal story with everybody to let y’all know you’re not alone in this journey and with god all things are possible. Stay strong & don’t give up!  

Giulia

What are Your ABC's?

Posted by Giulia Champion Aug 31, 2020

Make your own quotable quotes.  Mine follow.  Add yours.  It will help keep your mind off "you know what."

 

Actually we're just fine - the way we are.
Adhere to the positives, abstain from the negatives, allow for the possibilities
Be the best that you can be - God doesn’t ask for anything more.
Be who you are, because anything else is unworthy of you, and you are worth more than you can imagine.
Can't figure it out? That's ok. Persevere anyway.
Courage is a condition that occurs when you least expect it.
Don't EVER give up. On your dreams, your determination, your belief in yourself.
Do hope for the best. Dreams evolve into destiny. And destiny is dreams that have been pursued.
Eventually - we'll figure it out.
Escape from the mediocre. Turn off your TV and create your own entertainment. It will enrich your spirit.
Forgive and forget. Well, at least forgive.
Forget about IT - whatever IT may be that’s haunting you. Unless it finally pushes you to action.
Graduate to a new view if the old one provides no beauty for your soul.
Go for it. For it you don't try, you'll never know what's possible.
Hold onto hope. For it is your salvation.
Have your forgotten your purpose here? Then simply look in someone else’s face and seek to bring them joy.
I am, you are, he is, we are, they are...all in it together. I am, you are, he is, we are, they are....not alone in the daily wondering, hurting, loving aloneness that is being human.
If you must doubt, do not despair
Just because you’re afraid to, doesn’t mean you Can’t.
Jump off the end of the limb - if you fail, at least you’ve know flight - however briefly.
Know as much as you can about at least ONE subject. That will make you feel worthwhile - at least in your own eyes. And what else really matters?
Learn from your mistakes and love the lesson.
Leap across the void of Can’t to Can.
Manage a moment of gratitude every day - why not?
Memorize the face of those you love. They won’t be around forever.
Manipulate the negatives out of your life. They serve no purpose.
Marry your love to your actions. Your heart will grow.
Maintain perseverance against your foes, for they are adhering to this very vow.
Nod to a stranger with a hello. Doesn’t it cheer you when they do it to you?
Nobody said life was fair. TV and Hollywood don’t count.
Never doubt yourself, but ALWAYS doubt an unkind word said about you.
Opportunity knocks on everyone’s door. The trick is to be brave enough to open it.
Put yourself in someone else’s place. You may find wisdom there.
Question doctors, governments and yourself. Healing comes from within
Quit aggravating the situation by picking at it. Find a new scab and let the old one heal.
Rest assured that what is true today may not be true tomorrow. And if it is, it’ll probably be different.
Reason it out. Don’t just let emotions control your being.
Remember to love - something - each day. No matter how hard that may seem to be.
Require excellence of yourself. It is what God expects.
Rue not your lacks. Rather rejoice in your abilities, however mean.
Say a prayer for someone each day. It will take you out of yourself.
Stand strong in your beliefs. It builds character.
Stay honest with yourself. Delusions create false realities.
Tame the temptation within and terrify the tormentor.
Tread not into the paths of self doubt, unless you need the lesson, for there is One who has no doubts about you.
Treat everyone you meet with an open heart. Caring and loving are a normal part of our species.
Trust in....... (YOU fill in the blank. The less, the greater the fear. The more, the greater the capacity for love.)
Thank someone for something every day. It will acknowledge that you’re not totally selfish.
Unconditional love - try it on. It’s an invisible cloak utterly transparent to God.
Utter words that transcend, not banalities that add to the mediocre.
Vie for what is right and fair and just, not for the petty. The petty is not pretty.
Voice your opposition to that which is wrong. Add it to the caring multitudes.
When everything seems lost remember that tomorrow it will change - in some way.
Wondering what might have been serves absolutely no purpose except to keep you awake at night.
When in doubt, trust your instincts, even if they’re wrong. They’re more right than any surmise.
You are, you can, you will be.....(fill in the blank with your own determinative positive)
Zoos are meant to be visited. They remind us there are other cages than our own.

Once we decide to bite the bullet and take back our lives from the clutches of the dreaded nicotine poison we'll be living a life of Freedom BUT in order to remain Smokefree we must choose to stick with N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever and vigilance N.M.W - No Matter What! Our lives are worth so much more than the damned Cancer Sticks....

With the right Mindset we can do just about anything we put our minds to AND thankfully quitting smoking and remaining quit is definitely DOABLE not easy by any stretch of the imagination BUT very Doable PLUS it's the best gift that any of us will ever give ourselves which is the GIFT OF LIFE .....BUT we all must choose to stick with N.O.P.E ~N.M.W in order to remain Smokefree ....

My allergy med aerius seems to be working my headache isn't near as bad this morning  it's a wonderful feeling choosing Freedom over the yuckies (cigarettes)

Let's always remember and N.E.F Never Ever Forget that horrid DAY ONE or those early days and weeks of quitting smoking because Relapsing would totally suck big time BUT each and every Day WON is a GIFT of LIFE....

Well good golly to the pin below LOL HA HA HA....

Julie1960

Quit

Posted by Julie1960 May 10, 2020

Own the quit train again.  I am not going to beat myself up. I am going to do this one minute at a time.  I don't no why I smoked again.  Maybe the break up with my fellow.  Maybe my 14 year old grandson giving me grief.  Maybe I feel like no body really loves me.  It is mothers day my only child is passed.  Maybe I just said to he'll with it why not.  Maybe the stay at home stuff.  But I no there should be no excuse to smoke at all.  Nope.  

My hubby Mark will have 6 years of Smokefree living on the 25th of April and I'll follow two and a half months later on the 14th of July neither one of us ever thought in a million years that we'd ever quit neither did the family or any of our friends BUT our health was becoming a concern which made us sick and tired of being sick and tired because coughing and choking and nearly horking up a lung or possibly even both was just about the way things were especially for Mark at night for me it was mostly in the mornings trying to get that first drag or two in without horking up my lungs WOW!!!!! I don't miss those days at all, it sure as HELL wasn't easy by any stretch of the imagination in those early days and weeks BUT boy oh boy it's so worth it to be able to go anywhere anytime whenever wherever and however without wondering where to sneak off to suck on a damned Cancer Stick because once you get through the roller coaster ups and downs of withdrawals and moodswings and lack of sleep to get to that good place in your quit where you realize that LIFE really is Grand without a Cigarette in Hand!!! YAY for Smokefree living and YAY for each and every Day WON.......2,100 glorious DOF for mtoday and I'm still smiling because I'm free thankfully with commitment and perseverance everyone & anyone can and will be living  a life of Freedom it'st he best choice anyone of us will ever make in our lifetime becausei t's a GIFT of LIFE.......

Maya Angelou

SINCERELY IN HIS LOVE TO ALL WHO TEACH ME TO NEVER GIVE UP AND TO HELP OTHERS STAY QUIT!

Once upon a time, about 3 decades ago in my previous life, I had a big house in the country. I had everything I thought I wanted - 3 cats in the yard, a really neat house, an apple orchard, a thriving small business of my own.

 

Every Christmas season, I had a big open house at my home. I had the coolest collection of Christmas music. The most over the top garland up the open stairway, an 18' Christmas tree in the great room. And I baked for weeks in advance.

 

This particular Christmas was in the middle of a year I now think of as "the year of learning."

 

Nothing was going right. My house, underneath all its remodeling, was just an old farm house. The Great Room and half the house was heated by a huge wood burning fireplace. My husband, who had left me for "no reason" (whose named turned out to be something like Jane) also left me unprepared for the coming winter. I had to get a cord of firewood dropped in the drive, and then loaded by myself around to the back of the house, up onto a small porch. Every morning I got up to an ice-cold house, alone, in the country, on a dirt road that sometimes didn't get plowed for days if the snow was heavy in the rest of the county.

 

When the holidays arrived, I wanted my Christmas open house. Did I have to give up everything?

 

 And everything was going wrong. The day before the event, my road had been snowed in for almost a week. I couldn't get to the store. The stairs to the garage attic had broken and I couldn't get it fixed, to get to my many boxes of Christmas decorations, or to the holiday cookie cutters I always used - reindeer, Christmas trees, holly.

 

After flinging myself and everything I could think of about madly, I thought about just calling it off. But some friends had joked that they'd be there on snow-shoes if they had to. So I put away my recipes for stuffed figs, and hung up the idea of Christmas Open Houses Past.

 

I had the ingredients for sugar cookies, and I had three dinosaur Play Dough forms still in a drawer from when my nephew had visited over the summer. A new tradition was born - the Christmas dinosaur.

 

To greet my friends, who followed the snow-plow to my door, I played Eric Clapton and Bonnie Raitt. We all carried in firewood from snowy back porch. And then we munched down Christmas cookies that looked a bit like this:

 

A stegosaurus with Christmas tree lights down his back,

a brontosaurus in a sweater that had a big "L" in a circle, with a line through it (no-L),

and a ceratops with a giant wreath around her neck.

 

Happy holidays. Cheers to new traditions.

Giulia

Hold the hands of support

Posted by Giulia Champion Oct 30, 2017

Wasn't sure in which place to share this - here or in the video section.  Decided since it is SO uplifting, here would be better.  Thank you Pati c2q  for turning us on to this gorgous human being.  T-i-double-guh-er 

 

 

 

Giulia

It's Gonna Be Okay

Posted by Giulia Champion Oct 24, 2017

When we first quit nothing feels OK.  Especially us.  We feel like fish out of water.  Everything is uncomfortable.  We feel like we've lost our best friend.  We seem unable to cope with anything and are irritated by everything.  Or we're lost in a fog and all we want to do it sleep it away, but our sleep pattern has been altered too.  We tend to cry a lot.  We don't know what to do to get through.  We're told it will get better, but it seems to take sooooo long.  Our entire being seems foreign to us.  And it's UNCOMFORTABLE!

 

Yup - that's what the early stages of the quit journey feel like.  It's uncomfortable.  We're out of our comfort zone for sure.  Because the behavior that we've practiced for so long - many of us for year and YEARS - is being altered.  It's different to go through our days without our binky, without our "go to" to relieve stress; our reward for an accomplishment, exclamation point on a success; that moment where we can relax for a few minutes and that five minutes to pause to think through sorrow or anger and escape it; the sharing of times with like-minded smokers, that after-meal final fulfillment or the one after sex.. the times alone on our back decks where we got relief with a cigarette in hand...  

 

When we quit smoking - everything changes.  All our normal routines and behaviors are altered.  (But we have chosen this path to freedom, don't forget.)  So of course we're going to feel uncomfortable.  But only for a while.  

 

When dragon flies mate, they do so over water and the egg  is deposited in the water itself.  The life cycle of a dragonfly larva begins as a nymph.  It lives in water as it grows and develops.  It is essentially a water-breathing creature and it's REALLY scaring looking.  I've seen one and it's really icky!: 

 

 

 

It can take up to four years to complete this cycle of it's development.   It doesn't take us that long!  Promise!

 

Eventually it comes out of the water and hangs out on the bank and breaks through it's shell.  A very different looking creature.  It sits there in the sun as the water oozes from it's new body, from it's tail, drop by drop, wings stuck together.

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After about 20 minutes the airfoils suddenly open.  There is a pause.  Then a fluttering like manic helicopter blades as the wings dry.  Another moment of stillness and in a breath it lifts into the sky.  Like it was the most natural thing in the world.  I've watched this process.  It was truly awesome.  Breathtaking that moment of liftoff.  To think that this creature had been water breathing 30 minutes prior, crawling around the bottom of the pond, and now it was airborne.  A glorious moment indeed.  Stunning.

 

I've watched many people quit here and it's an equally glorious moment to see someone achieve that One Year Milestone.  To watch that transformation from frightened nymph to empowered flier.  Many say "I never would have believed I could get here...."  

 

You know what?  You CAN!  It's gonna be OK.  You're going to go from a muddy smokey tar-breather on the bottom of the pond to an air breather.  Just hang in 'til you find your new comfort zone.  And soar!  

 

You just have to hold on long enough.  

 

 

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It's Gonna Be OKAY - The Piano Guys - YouTube 

When I decided to bite the bullet and stop playing Russian Roulette with my life I'll tell you that I wasn't really sure if I could quit or even if I wanted to but I was just told I had mild copd and that scared me enough to know that I didn't want to end up on oxygen 7/ 24 or worse die a slow painful death which would most likely be smoking related so I searched for quit smoking programs on line and decided on Ex and to make a long story short I totally got a wealth of information here but I hid in the shadows and once I quit I forgot about the site until my 18th day when I was struggling to the point of jumping in my car and buying a carton of cigarettes instead of just a pack, I really don't know if I would've or not I'd like to think I wouldn't have because the night before quitting I promised myself that I'd never ever pick up another cigarette as long as I live and i dont break promises to anyone including myself but thankfully I remembered this site and got on line and commented on something and then someone noticed me and suggested I tell the community a little about myself and my quit that was 1,186 glorious days ago. Quitting smoking is definitely difficult to say the least but it's absolutely Doable and definitely worth it so chin up, hang tough and plow through the roller coaster ups and downs of withdrawals and mood swings so you can come out the other side smiling because there's absolutely life after cigarettes and it's yours for the taking but you must stick with your quit and keep stacking up those precious DOF because anything in this life worth having takes time and effort and quitting smoking and Remaining Quit should be at the top of the list of things to do and our lives literally depends on us to bite the bullet because in my opinion life is way too short to knowingly continue to slowly kill ourselves so get through the rough patches and start reaping the benefits of an Ex Smoker and as Dale says the only way out is through but boy oh boy it's worth it.

Freedom from the clutches of the dreaded nicotine poison comes from believing in ourselves, being willing, determined and totally committed to succeed and persevering and plowing forward no matter what is happening in life and stacking up those precious smoke free days, quitting smoking is definitely difficult to say the least but it's absolutely Doable and and definitely worth it so hang on tight and don't let go until you come out the other side smiling because there's definitely life after cigarettes and it's yours for the taking but you must stick with your quit.

With the right mindset we can do just about anything we put our minds to including quitting smoking and Remaining Quit  I remember how difficult it is in the early days and wks but I got through it and so will anyone and everyone that believes in themselves and are willing, determined and totally committed to succeed then you can and will be successful but you must stick with your quit with No If Ands Or Buts because there's Not One EXcuse that's good enough to throw away a perfectly beautiful quit because life's going to happen whether you smoke or not so chin up and grab on tight and don't let go until you come out the other side smiling because there's definitely life after cigarettes and it's yours for the taking so hang tough and keep plowing forward because each day you get through is another day WON! N.O.P.E  - Not One Puff Ever - works when applied on a daily basis because S.I.N.A.O  - Smoking Is Not An Option,  if you've been quit awhile remember this N. E. F.  - Never Ever Forget  - the early days and wks of quitting because wouldn't it totally Suck Big Time to have to go back to Day One!!!! So taking EXtra good care of yourself with H. A. L. T.  - Hunger, Anger, Lonely, Tired because anyone of these can really throw havoc into your quit but every withdrawal, craving and mood swing is worth it all to be FREE!!!! Quitting smoking is definitely difficult but if absolutely Doable and anything in this life worth having takes time and effort and quitting smoking should be at the top of the list of things to do for your health, your family and even your wallet but mostly because your life is literally depending on it! 

I can't think of much to say this morning without sounding like a broken record so I'll wish everyone the best day possible and tonight can and will be another Day WON or maybe it's your first Day WON with many more to come, there really is Life after cigarettes so reach out and grab it and don't let go until you come out the other side smiling!